I received an email from a friend, studio owner and teacher letting me know she had some issues with my blog post entitled “A letter to Jane Doe 1 and Jane Doe 2”. I have already written her an email in reply and let her know that I would be using her points in a follow up post. If she had issues with what I wrote it is more than likely that others did, so I’d like to clarify. I also encouraged her to use the comments section on this blog if she’d like a more open discussion.
Taking my friend’s points in turn:
- The money thing – it is great to know that my home studio has no financial obligations whatsoever to Bikram HQ. This is a major issue for me and very reassuring to have that cleared up, which makes it easier for me to go on with my practice. It’s a relief. I would really encourage you to ask your studio owner for the same assurance; I expect you will be told that there is a one-off licencing fee then no more financial relationship. I would suggest media outlets reporting on this story with phrases such as “Choudury … runs an international empire of about 650 yoga studios across three continents” do suggest he has a financial stake in studios bearing his name (http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2013/may/14/bikram-yoga-sexual-assault-lawsuit) and it would be useful for them to be set straight.
- Turning a blind eye – I didn’t mean the whole bikram universe has turned a blind eye, I meant his inner core at Bikram HQ or TT, who reportedly dismissed the Jane Does’ request for help. Presumably these are the 24 co-defendants named in the lawsuit/s along with Bikram; it seems to me “turning a blind eye” is quite a generous summary of their charges. I hope that is clear now and I hope I didn’t hurt anyone else’s feelings if that was ambiguous.
- No, I have not turned my back on bikram yoga practice. I say at various points “I believe I will return to my practice”; “I choose to continue with this practice despite my discomforts”; and “by continuing in this path with my yoga”. Ditto, I hope that is now unambiguous.
- Am I able to separate the man from the practice? Yes, it is more than possible, but please be aware that our appreciation of this practice is built around his name and defined by his name and by extension so are we. Can you realistically expect people to be able to separate his name from the practice without suggesting an alternative name – what do we call it if we’re not to call it bikram, when the very name leaves an unpleasant taste? What are we to call ourselves after years and years of being encouraged to identify ourselves as bikram yogis? Can studio owners take his name off their businesses, can they take his picture off studio walls, are they prepared to ask teachers and studio twitter feeds to stop quoting him directly? I’m sure these things are being into consideration, if not straight away then in anticipation of a possible guilty verdict, but these are difficult questions and let’s not be naïve – these things don’t happen overnight. Not for teachers, not for students like me, and not for the broader bikram universe. Okay, maybe it’s only semantics, but it is very emotive for me and I want to know these things are in hand because I feel we have been let down.
- It takes quite a lot to stomach being asked to separate the man from the practice when the vast majority of the bikram universe is acting like nothing has happened.
- My home studio has sent an email to members about the lawsuits. It was six days after the lawsuits were first reported which is a little slow for my tastes but I have to say that I am on the mailing lists of several bikram yoga studios in the UK and US and mine is the only one to acknowledge publicly that this is happening, so I do respect that. Maybe you’d like to tell me how your studio is handling this in the comments section below? (If you know a studio whose PR agency is telling them to remain quiet, tell them “Silence is compliance, bitches” and get them to sack the PR and make a statement.)
More generally, I think, the lack of response from Bikram HQ is really troubling – and I daresay there are legal subtleties there that I’m not conversant with. But because we invest so much in this very demanding practice which – let’s face facts – does ritualise him that when something like this happens with even a chance that he is guilty we feel leaderless, and the silence compounds that into a feeling of abandonment. I can’t tell you the crisis of faith I have been facing – which in itself has taken me by surprise. If anything has taught me how important this yoga has become to me it is this shameful episode, I can assure you.
I am sincerely pleased that my friend got in touch as these are times of heightened emotions when it’s really easy to misunderstand each other and the fewer ambiguities remain the better.
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